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For me, the final full week of the 12 months has at all times been the prospect to pause, take a break from the grind of promoting, and actually take into consideration what occurred over the previous 12 months—the great, the unhealthy, and the ugly.
In case you are something like me and do the identical, there are two methods to look again in your final twelve months. You are able to do so with remorse or reflection.
These two opposing lenses are vastly totally different in the best way they have an effect on your view of the place you’ve been and the place you’re going.
Remorse
Let’s begin by unpacking remorse.
A few of you might be already feeling remorse about objectives you missed, offers you misplaced, alternatives that slipped by means of your fingers, or the individuals in your life you might have let down.
Remorse is that feeling you get if you look again on one thing you probably did (or didn’t do) and need you might change it.
In some ways, remorse is just like fear, besides it’s centered on the previous as a substitute of the longer term. Fear is about what would possibly occur; remorse is about what already occurred. That’s an enormous distinction.
Though you may flip fear into motion and alter the longer term, you can’t rewrite the previous. No quantity of remorse adjustments historical past. All it does is create a suggestions loop in your thoughts the place you retain reliving your errors, misses, and failures again and again.
Caught within the Limitless Loop of Remorse
I’ve noticed so many individuals get caught on this countless loop of remorse. They preserve lamenting, “If solely I had . . .”
- “made that decision,”
- “dealt with that prospect in another way,”
- “taken that likelihood,”
- “been there or completed that.”
These “if solely’s” can paralyze you. They sap your vitality, crush your confidence, and preserve you from shifting ahead.
On one hand, remorse can push you to alter—you don’t need to really feel that type of ache once more, so you’re employed onerous to keep away from repeating the identical errors.
Alternatively, remorse can turn into a debilitating emotion that drags you into an exhausting and ineffective psychological loop of “would’ve, might’ve, ought to’ve.”
However regardless of what number of instances you full that loop, it doesn’t change the result. It turns into an emotional anchor that weighs you down as you begin the brand new 12 months.
Reflection
Reflection, alternatively, is completely totally different—and much more productive.
Once you replicate, you detach out of your feelings with objectivity to take a look at your complete physique of labor from the previous 12 months.
- You’re asking the questions, “What went properly? What didn’t go so properly? What did I study?”
- You think about the wins that made you proud and the moments you’d reasonably neglect.
- You determine why you received so you may repeat these successful behaviors.
- You extract worth from the teachings of failure.
Reflection isn’t about punishing your self for what went fallacious. It’s about gaining readability on why it went fallacious—and what you are able to do about it subsequent time.
Reflection Creates Consciousness
Reflection additionally helps you discover gratitude in sudden locations. Possibly there’s a hidden lesson in overcoming an impediment or maybe you gained a brand new perspective as a result of a difficult individual got here into your life.
It’s necessary to appreciate that every resolution you revamped the previous 12 months formed your current circumstances. However you aren’t outlined by these circumstances, solely by the way you reply to them.
Reflection creates consciousness. The place there’s consciousness there’s the potential for change. Consciousness is just like the solar, something it touches tends to remodel.
The underside line is that reflection is about studying, rising, and reworking. Remorse is stagnation.
Why Reflection Issues at Yr-Finish
The rationale I’m speaking concerning the affect of reflection as we shut out this 12 months is as a result of, for many of us, the slate actually does really feel clear come January 1st.
Within the gross sales world, we get a brand-new quota and brand-new targets. There’s an air of chance as we predict,
- “This 12 months goes to be totally different.
- “This 12 months, I’m going to crush my numbers.”
- “Hit my revenue targets.”
- “Make it to President’s membership.”
- “Get a promotion.”
- “Lastly, shut that dream account I’ve been chasing.”
However when you don’t take a second to replicate on what labored and what didn’t, you’re prone to end up repeating the identical missteps. Reflection is like an inner debrief—an opportunity to say, “Right here’s what occurred, right here’s why, and right here’s how I’m going to repair it.”
Readability Arises From Reflection
Let me provide you with a private instance. A the start of final 12 months I set a objective for my gross sales coaching firm Gross sales Gravy. This was an enormous, daring visionary objective that might rework our group and finally double our gross sales.
I proudly and confidently instructed my group that it was going to occur. After which, in an embarrassing crash and burn, I failed miserably.
Definitely, I might have stewed in remorse, beating myself up and permitting my self-talk to run wild about how I fell brief. However that might have been a waste of time and vitality.
As a substitute, I selected reflection. I requested myself, “What occurred and why didn’t I obtain this objective?” As I mulled over these questions, the solutions got here extra clearly than I anticipated.
One of many greatest insights I gained was that I’d set this huge objective however didn’t set up a system or plan to make it occur. You see, a objective with no system is mainly only a want—as they are saying, “hope is just not a technique.”
Construct a System that Helps Your Targets
If, for instance, you set a objective to prospect 100 potential prospects per week, however you haven’t constructed a disciplined each day routine, constructed focused lists, put aside particular instances for calls, and created accountability checkpoints, it’s not going to stay. Life will get in the best way. In the end, your huge, daring objective will get overshadowed by one million different duties. With no system for reaching the objective you rapidly succumb to self-discipline fatigue.
That is precisely what occurred to me. At the beginning of final 12 months, I used to be fired up about my huge objective. I used to be assured, energized, excited and believed that I might make the objective to occur simply by saying that it could.
Then my gross sales group began knocking it out of the park bringing in new purchasers and the work began to pile up. I used to be touring, talking, coaching, advising purchasers, writing a guide, operating the OutBound Convention, and coping with on a regular basis enterprise firefights. As a result of I didn’t have a system in place to assist my audacious objective, because the grind wore me down and my self-discipline started to fatigue, I slowly however certainly drifted off track.
In my case, I spotted that with a objective this huge, the hubris to imagine that I might simply manifest it with my enthusiasm was a failing technique.
As a substitute, I wanted to rent extra expertise. To make this objective a actuality, I wanted individuals who might paved the way and preserve this mission on monitor. I additionally wanted to construct a scientific, step-by-step system for reaching the objective.
Upon reflection, I’m grateful for my large failure as a result of it pressured me to alter my strategy to management, add superb new individuals to my group, and get far more dialed in with our strategic enterprise planning course of.
That is precisely why reflection will be your greatest good friend at 12 months finish. It permits you to personal your failures with out letting them outline you, and it helps you leverage your successes by pinpointing what you probably did proper.
Remorse says: “You tousled. You’ll by no means repair this. It’s too late.”
Reflection says: “You tousled. Now let’s discover out why, study from it, and do higher subsequent time.”
A Step-by-Step Reflection Course of
My problem to you this week is to carve out time to replicate in your previous 12 months.
- Put aside half-hour of silence—it might be your lounge early within the morning earlier than anybody else wakes up, your automobile parked someplace peaceable, or a stroll in a park with out your earbuds in. Flip off your whole units. For those who’re like most individuals, silence is a rarity. We’ve obtained telephones buzzing, TVs blasting, children operating round, textual content messages pinging, and social media notifications lighting us up. Subsequently you will want to be intentional about discovering and making a silent place to replicate.
- Shut your eyes and mentally journey by means of the 12 months—begin in January. What have been your huge objectives? What was occurring in your world at the moment? Then transfer to February, March, April, and so forth.
- Rejoice wins—which offers closed that made you proud? Which new relationships or connections had a huge impact? What private milestones did you hit? What did you accomplish?
- Determine successful behaviors—what have been the behaviors, mindsets, and disciplines that led to those wins? How are you going to flip them into repeatable habits?
- Acknowledge failures or misses—what didn’t go proper? What offers did you lose? Why did you lose them? Which objectives stayed out of attain? What alternatives slipped by? The place, when, and the way did you fail your self or let down the individuals round you?
- Dig into failure—don’t simply settle for failure, ask “Why?” Discover the teachings and establish the behaviors and mindsets that held you again. Decide to altering them.
- Embrace gratitude—it’s really easy to fixate on negatives. As a substitute, establish the silver linings. In any case, it’s the journey, reasonably than the vacation spot that makes life actually significant. Embracing the journey is essential to growing a satisfying and optimistic outlook as you enter the brand new gross sales season.
Right here’s the large takeaway: Remorse is the enemy of progress, Reflection is the catalyst for progress.
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